As women when you look good, you feel good. Having people praise you or your body definitely gives your confidence a boost. So what happens in the case of body shaming?
Body shaming affects women of all sizes. Usually when you think of body shaming, you would immediately associate that with the body of a plus sized woman. As the unfortunate recipient of body shaming on both sides, I can truthfully say that you do not have to be plus sized to have people commenting negatively about your body.
Whether you are a size 2 or 22, your body will still be under scrutiny. Why? Could it be because we live in a society where people are judged on how they look or could it be because society produced the idea that if you want achieve the ultimate femininity or to be feminine you need to be a certain size. Whatever the reason, body shaming happens and it needs to stop. Here are some pointers on how to do that: how to stop body shaming.
We are confronted with body shaming on a daily basis, be it from facebook, twitter or whichever social networking site you subscribe to. When on the receiving end of body shaming, it does have a negative effect on you. Not only does it break your self-confidence (speaking from experience) but it also affects you psychologically. Several authors have written about the effects body shaming can have on a person’s well-being.
I have often heard people say the reason why they say hurtful things about a loved one’s body or any other person for that matter is to encourage them to do something about it. It is THEIR body which they feel comfortable with, and if not, they will eventually do something about it. Body shaming adds extra pressure on you to lose or gain weight, which will actually lead to the opposite.
Everyone wants to be complimented and made feel beautiful. Body shaming definitely does not make people feel beautiful. Being plus sized or skinny does not mean that you unhealthy, so using that as a reason to body shame someone is a feeble excuse and shows your true character as well as the kind of person that you are.
I found this really beautiful essay by Hanna Blank titled Real Women. Women come in all shapes and sizes, so shaming them on how they look needs to stop.